Home renovations – chapter 1

My wife and I do not spend money on anything unless we have to so our resources go on the normal basics, the occasional meal out, entertainment if we feel like it and the dreaded council tax which gets bigger every year. We do not however pay huge amounts for mortgages or rents.

Today, the renovation that we had been talking about for a year or so has come about. We have replaced the dreadful old carpet, very fashionable in the 1970s, flowers with a green background, for a wood effect pseudo wooden floor. The chap turned up at nine o’clock. He does nothing else but do wooden floors and this showed. He summed the whole situation up in a moment and asked the very questions that I was going to bring up i.e. what to do with telephone wires.

I am one who does not like to sit back passively and helplessly while someone else does the work. I stripped out the old carpet and dealt with those horrible pieces of wood with nails sticking out of them. I wish people would not bang nails or attempt to bang nails into concrete because they are very difficult to get out after 25 years. The golden rule of employing someone is that you always offer coffee and not just once, as often as they want. I also offered the chap lunch but he said he carried his lunch in his van.

He comes from Bristol and we discussed the large number of thefts that are happening irrespective of the number of locks you got. He said once that £2000 worth of tools had been stolen because he left his van just for a moment to go into a store and get some sandwiches. Evidently, the police are not interested. It’s probably because of the so-called cuts that are happening everywhere. There are simply no police to handle the matters.  I do ask myself, we are the seventh richest country in the world so what is the necessity for these cuts in the first place? Do you read about cuts in other countries Scandinavian countries for example?

The work was finished at about 3:30 PM. He called in someone else to help because a different type of job needed to be done which was to put lino in the loo.  The installer liked to play his radio quite loudly and made a great deal of noise using some of the saws and pressure tools that he required. I find it very important not to sour the atmosphere or affect their work by endless talk about irrelevant matters, a complaint when someone is halfway through the work, general life philosophy about builders who have let you down in the past, and any other irritation. Basically, the workers want to get in, do the job, get paid, and leave.

We replaced all the items that live in the hall. There was a totally different feel, clean but clinical, and a little bit echoey. I did not like it but I suppose we shall have to get used to things. When you walk on it it’s definitely not like wood but then if you want a real wooden floor you have to pay a fortune.




A stoic contact

I renewed acquaintance with Barry, an affable chap I met at a talk on 5G a couple of weeks ago. We seemed to be on the same wavelength. He described himself as a stoic.

there is believe it or not a website called dailyStoic.com

Stoicism goes back to Greek philosophy and claims that the path to happiness for humans is found in accepting the moment as it presents itself by not allowing oneself to be controlled by the desire for pleasure or fear of pain. His social behaviour did not quite fit with this.  He said that he does not bother to talk with people about important things, 5G included never mind 911 because they immediately marginalise and dismiss him.

I countered with the possibility that he was probably being drained through their negative attitudes; he would be quite happy to speak about his chosen subjects with those who were on his wavelength. The more I go on, the more I realise it’s a question of wavelength. Barry is Irish, he grew up under the Catholic influence and became an evangelical Christian and now seems to have turned into a humanist, a pagan, an enthusiast for nature and natural ways of doing things. It is nice finding that someone who has had a parallel life to yourself. I told him I had decided to live my life in reverse because my teen years was so dreadful that I decided to live them at the other end of my life –  so here I am at 74 years of age going on 18.

He spoke about one of my websites, giving useful advice,  and we decided to meet again.

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I went to see two clients today, two new potential gardening jobs. The first one was to clean some decking which unfortunately had been painted with plastic -based paint which was the worst of all worlds for the wood. I have to mow the lawn and I have to remove a large antenna.

The second job was a bungalow where they were paving stones to the front, side and back end due to the activity of the wind, the paving stones on the side were stained. I gave quotes for both jobs and had them accepted.

I sometimes wonder whether I charge too little.  You have to estimate how much you think people can manage. If someone is on a pension anything above £100 is too much and yet many people retire on good pensions especially round here and they have plenty of money for holidays and so on so I can charge them a realistic amount without problems.

I have a rule as I said before that I never work for unpleasant people and I do stick to it.

this may look grim but the soil is good and was cultivated with love over the years by the husband, now deceased, Two or three people could clear this within the hour.

Francoise works on Monday for age UK. She met a woman whose garden had deteriorated after the death of a husband and said she would be quite glad for someone to come and work it. We went round to see her and we said that in return for the person using the space – which was currently doing nothing except supporting weeds –  she would receive vegetables from time to time. So it’s bartering. The amount of space was 42 m² plus a glasshouse so that would be enough for most people.  I love the idea of people fully utilising the gardens of their property and I’ve made a note on my ever-growing list of useful social projects.




Winter visits us

two of our animals keeping watch for burglars and generally keeping the house safe

I’m on a new course of mitochondria repair. It involves taking six tablets twice a day. The technique is supposed to reverse the effect of ageing,  to reverse the state of health that started to degrade when we were 16 years of age or thereabouts.   I have no idea if it will work but I tend to trust the professional person who told me about the medication and therefore from whom I made the investment (about £250 for a two month course).

So, last Friday the snow came as the temperatures plummeted. I won’t use this term in the same breath as the Chicago phenomenon of -40°C Low, a phenomenon that I’m deeply suspicious of. Man made?  Who knows?

I went for a walk yesterday morning in the lovely crisp sunlight but the conditions were so difficult that I had to concentrate almost full-time on not falling over. Francoise had bought some spikes which helped her to negotiate the ice with dexterity and it was me who almost acted like an old man stumbling and walking slowly.

We decided to go into hibernation. Last night we went to bed early, at about 10 o’clock, and I slept through until eight o’clock in the morning which is a phenomenal amount of time for me to stay still. Actually, there was nothing much to get up for. My local church service had been cancelled due to the weather, very wise as it turned out so why not stay in a warm bed and drift into the arms of Morpheus.

Around lunchtime we listened to Jacob Rees Mogg our local MP being grilled by the BBC who tried to make out but there was a connection between a car company not building any more cars here and Brexit. The presenter of the World at One did his best to interject and interrupt the MPs thoughts but to no avail. Rees Mogg pointed out that there were other problems apart from Brexit, for example that the chief of the car company was languishing in jail because he had understated his income. I admire the interviewee for not losing his cool.

If I ever get into a position when my words are listened to in public I will not let the BBC anywhere near a press conference. I shall tell them that they are expert at disguising their Marxist philosophy as objective news and presenting it to the public in this form. They have done
untold damage this country, and get paid millions by the government to carry on in this way. Thanks again David Sedgwick for bringing all this into focus in your book as mentioned in my last diary entry.

There is a lot to be said for hibernating in the winter. Animals do it and recover perfectly well, what is it about man that thinks he is indispensable on 24/7 basis all the time ‘doing’ things. Why not have a period of not doing anything? The point is that while you’re alive the brain is working and it is impossible to do nothing. You may be processing information or repairing yourself. The brain being the ultimate relational database loves to process things, and for all you know you may wake up from the hibernation wiser than when you went into it.

Just a thought.

I’m meditating on the problem at the moment of a very good professional friend of mine who has an employee that has lost momentum. Because I have the ability of going back in time with my mind and seeing how they were letter say six months ago, I can track patterns in behaviour and motive. I really want to share this with my friend but can do nothing if there is resistance. I agree that people such as myself should wait to be asked but if a person is not aware what you can do then they will not know to ask. the normal reaction to offering help is defensiveness so I guess the only time to be able to help is when someone is ready.

 




The misuse and abuse of the English language

I do wonder and despair when I hear our beautiful English language being degraded. I cannot blame imported Americanisms for everything so here is a list of my pet hates.

have a nice day, rest of your evening, weekend.
I suppose this is just about tolerable but it implies that the abjuration is necessary to stop someone having a bad day. I have yet to meet someone who says I was having a bad day until someone told me to have a good one and amazingly I did.

Having a good day consists of being grateful for the simple things of life and valuing everyone you meet. It is not precocious and depends on a good philosophy.

I will be honest with you
Ah, so that means you are normally dishonest. Thanks for telling me.

That’s a very good question
As, so most of the time you ask ordinary or irrelevant questions. Every question should be ‘good’ and indeed respected by both parties otherwise it should not be asked.

I was literally shaking with fear
Um how do you shake un-literally. Shaking with fear will cover it.

I will just go and doublecheck for you
frequently used by service agents and I hate it. you examine data, that is stage one. The second stage is to check it. The third stage if you need further confirmation is to double check. You cannot double check before you single check.

May I ask you a (personal) question?
This is the dumbest question ever.  99 to 1 there is a hidden agenda. I would say ‘no’ or grin inanely.

Sorry to trouble you
If you were sorry then why are you doing it? This applies particularly to  beggars in trains (yes, they still exist)

I will just make a quick call
no, you mean a brief call. Quick means you speak quicker?

It is what it is
Whew!   I never thought of that one.

I’m like …….
this is treating yourself as a stereotype. People should own their emotions entirely and describe them from within.

sort of
I heard a man talk about housing development he said ‘ we had sort of 39 houses that need repairing. What is the difference between sort of 39 and 39? Is the uncertain about his facts. I hear even professional broadcasters saying sort of every other sentence and it is profoundly irritating.

Jameen otherwise known as ‘do you know what I mean?’
this person clearly has very limited confidence in their own ability to communicate. If they are communicating something clearly and unambiguously it will be plain to see from the reaction that the other person does not understand or want to understand

If you understand what I’m saying
see above. give the person credit for asking a supplementary question if they don’t understand what’s being said.

hey you guys
I think the word ‘ guys’ is totally overused. I’ve heard it used when talking to one person, or with a group of females, and I think it is pure and simple slovenly. Same goes for ‘how y’all doin.

What was your name
My name is the same as it was last week, this week and next week.  You would not say ‘what was your sex?’   My name is.. would do it for me.

is there anything else I can do for you?
Once again this is taking the customer, usually on the telephone, for an idiot. If there was anything more,  the customer would have mentioned it. I wonder how many times in practice people have said ‘oh yes my goodness I have forgotten, there was one other thing’.

I’m good
do I have to say anything here? When asked how you are,  I don’t want a moral self opinion but a report on your physicality. Good = adjective;  Well = qualifying adverb.

(in hospital) Can you… lift your arm…. for me
no, I will lift my arm because it is necessary in view of the context. I’m not doing it for any particular person, I’m doing it for the sake of the problem

Unnecessary swearing including the f-word
I have never felt comfortable with the gratuitous use of the f word but it is very understandable when someone’s hit there numb with a hammer. I don’t think it has any place in normal conversation, especially when I hear women swear or even worse children swear.

With all due respect
Such hypocrisy. It is normally when you do not respect someone that this phrase is used.

..At this moment in time
the ‘in time’ could be superfluous, but stretching a point it could be an emphasis that time is the key. I would prefer to say ‘at this juncture’ or even …. wait for it …. now.

I’m sure this list will be added to so on this occasion here is an opportunity for audience participation. does anyone have any hate words or phrases. Write to me brian @ pobox.com




Love is the ultimate additive

I agree that this is a strange title. I have long held the philosophy that you only know what you know when you speak to someone else. I was having a perfectly delightful chat to a group of art lovers at a private view in a very posh bed-and-breakfast near Bath, The Tasborough House. This diary will be largely a pictorial essay because there were so many wonderful works of sculpture available for purchase.

a delightful old tree near the hotel

What is most delightful is when you meet unexpected people, people of the most delightful qualities that you would be happy to spend time with. I meet some people and such was the quality that it wouldn’t matter if I met them again or not because the pleasure was in the impact of a kindred spirit and as I never get tired of saying, it’s all about wavelength. People on your wavelength are enhanced and enhance you and people off your wavelength tends to be so boring that its actually destructive of your energy to try and have dialogue.

Saturday was spent preparing for departing for my weekend conference. I was so impressed by the speed at which the whole website came to be that I wrote a special page on it if you care to read it.

Too tired to do anything more tonight so I shall flop around and get my preparations for tomorrow’s departure complete.